20 things about your twenties

I came across this and thought would share it, it is from Huffpost Women, something I love reading and makes my morning beautiful….

I am adding my comments in italics ..happy reading:-)

  1. You’re going to be broke for a very long time. Stock up on Ramen and make the best of it.- This is kind of true, I have a wishlist and every month half my salary goes in buying presents or treating people to dinner or lunch or drinks…
  2. The first time you fall in love probably won’t be the last. There are different kinds of love and people that will come into your life for different reasons…Ok now this is even more true, true real dreamy love is impossible to find, the ones you love will or will not love you back and you end up with the wron guys, who might hurt you, but you will always have your friends to help you get over any sort of heartbreak…
  3. You will undeniably grow apart from your friends in some ways. You’re going to move and get into relationships and careers that take up a lot of your time and rather than resent each other for that, cherish the time that you do have to spend together. I so miss this, I have changed two cities and now I am in the third city but I miss my friends in different parts of the world and I know they are busy with their lives, thank goodness for technology, it keeps me connected to some of my favourite people all across the globe..But hanging out with someone for coffee,long drives with childhood pals all are a distant memory…
  4. Nothing in your life is permanent. That’s horrifying and invigorating all at the same time. You have to embrace change and accept that it is 100 percent necessary.- This is relative and subjective, I slip into the world of books, blog or write in my diary yet I know that in reality I have to deal with a lot of change in life and accept it gracefully.
  5. You’re never going to look “perfect,” but you’re beautiful the way you are. Accept what you see in the mirror and stop trying to change it. You’re young and vibrant. Own it. I am young, bubbly and my hair days are not always the same, i have experimented with my looks and styled myself differently yet I always feel I have nothing in my cupboard to wear and still stand cluelessly in front of my cupboard….Yet now that I am in my late twenties I find I am more accepting and comfortable with who I am and not in any mood to impress anybody and it is an honest fact that I dress up for myself cause I love dressing up…
  6. You’re going to feel alone sometimes. It’s going to seem like everyone has their own lives and you are floating in the ocean all by your lonesome. That’s OK. In the end, you can only really count on yourself, and you will become stronger from the moments you felt abandoned.- When you travel around and see pairs, sometimes it does hit you, but then you realise your happier single than being without someone not meant for you..It does cause a twang or two at times but that is the bitter sweet reality of life…
  7. There’s never going to be a time that you will not need your parents in many ways.True, absolutely..I share most of my disappointments with them and still feel like totally comforted when I unload my tough days and share it with them…I know I will not have them forever and that scares me..
  8. You’re going to feel unappreciated, defeated and disappointed at times. Oh gosh this happens quite a lot and eventually you learn how to deal with it in an adult manner, but sometimes it hurts ..
  9. You’re going to change your mind about things. You can’t feel guilty about leaving a relationship, city or career if it’s what’s best for you. Changing your mind is what you’re supposed to do. True sometimes relationships do not work out, cities do not seem to fit into your dreams and my career is not always a dreamy perfect one and there are days I hate what I am doing and feel lost and just plain lost in an ocean of humanity..
  10. The job market isn’t what it used to be. Your college degree or work history isn’t an easy ticket to success anymore. You are going to have to constantly prove yourself. Hard work is good. Hard work is mandatory, hours are not regular and success is not guaranteed and yet you work because that is how it is supposed to be..
  11. The past is over. You have to let go of every “what could have been” and go forward. Letting go and moving on is important and sometimes a priority for you and your mind to be allright!!
  12. It’s not always going to be easy to be a good person. You’re going to have to fight for what you believe is right and sometimes, no one will seemingly agree with you. You have to stand alone at times and be careful your values are with you and you actually walk the talk and no one might support you at times..
  13. Not everyone is going to like you and if you think that it’s possible to be universally liked, you will kill yourself trying. True and allthough we love the fact that we should be popular and loved yet it is kind of impossible and virtually not realistic..Slowly accepting the fact and trying to deal with it..
  14. You’re going to misjudge people. Don’t beat yourself up over trying to see the good in someone. True to a huge extent because I trust people and love and value them and sometimes that itself is a big lesson which I learn..
  15. When you do find your person, they aren’t going to be perfect. Your relationship or marriage will be hard sometimes. It isn’t about thinking someone is perfect; it’s about knowing that they are perfect for you. You need to marry your best friend, not your “dream” man or woman. I am yet to find someone who understands me and loves me for who I am and accepts me..dreamy,wishful thinking
  16. Your body is going to change. Whether its due to having children or not having enough money for a gym membership, you’re not always going to look 20. I repeat from #4, you’re beautiful. Your body is supposed to change, just like everything else in life does. This is the ugly part, I put on weight so fast and it is hard work knocking off every extra calorie or kilo..
  17. You’re going to fall on your face multiple times. This could from a relationship or job or really anything, but it will happen. You have to brush yourself off and learn from your mistakes. I keep learning and re-learning and coffee,chocolate and wine does fix this to an extent, plus my friends who are there to make sure I have a soft landing after the fall…
  18. Not everything will be like you imagine it now. You may not want to dish out the money you’d need to have your Pinterest Wedding or have the job you imagined for yourself, and that’s OK. This is yet to sink in….
  19. Your core values will not always align with those of the people around you. But you need to stand by them. Very very true and this is the hard part but sticking to your values will make your true friends trust you much more and the rest will fade away..
  20. You’re going to feel like a different person after these years and probably know a heck of a lot more than you do now. It’s most important that you remember who you are in your heart. Love freely. Move towards your dreams. Accept imperfection and realize that life will get messy, but it’s a beautiful mess and it’s all yours. I am a writer and that is largely because I love expressing, living and loving my life, it may not be perfect, I may not have Gucci in my wardrobe, but I do own a Coach, Guess, a few designer dresses and jackets and some lovely traditional wear and a decent perfume collection, the best part I have some amazing books and travel memories, a great bunch of friends and family all over the world, life is not all that bad and some of the best is unwritten and yet to come..
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